That will likely change. For many, including me, fear strikes before a shot gets into the arm. “Anticipating social interactions is often the hardest,” says Brown. “The anticipatory fear of what it will be like might actually be worse than the reality of how bad the fear actually is once it is there, but it is this build-up phase that can be very nerve-wracking for people.” Welcome to the build-up phase.
The good news is we can alleviate these symptoms. The first step is to stay present. Easier said than done, but when you feel the forward-thinking thoughts creeping in, try to catch them and remind yourself not to worry about summer until summer. “When we think about the future we feel anxious, and when we think about the past we tend to be sad. So the goal is to try as much as possible to stay in the here and now. “
Most of all, we need to make arrangements to be nice to ourselves. Richard Heimberg, professor of psychology at Temple University and former director of the Adult Anxiety Clinic, notes that this kindness will be especially necessary as both fearful and unconcerned people will feel a little “rusty.” Even the things that previously felt taken for granted, like commuting or working in an office, could cause discomfort after a full year of no practice. “The amount of fear we have [all] The feeling in general will be heightened due to the health concerns and rust problems, ”he says. It is important to ensure that any goals we set for ourselves take this into account and that we treat them as targeted rather than prescriptive.
“If we expect us to behave perfectly,” says Heimberg, “then we will beat ourselves up if we do not achieve this standard.” For some, resurfacing is more of a slow wiggle out than a clean breakthrough of our clams, and that’s fine. “It’s about accepting that everyone else is just as concerned about what we think of them as the other way around. And it’s about giving us the chance to just be human. “
On with life The line, the Covid-19 threat, gave many of us the confidence to say no – to others and to ourselves. Fortunately, the few social outings I’ve had in Lockdown come with an added level of sensitivity from friends and family . I’ve done my best to offer them the same. Perhaps most importantly, circumstances led me to extend this policy of non-judgmental acceptance to myself. And I’m not ready to give it up
I don’t have to be honest with ourselves and others about what we are comfortable with and what we actually do want do not have to go away with the virus. In fact, navigate the whole practice conversations If we know what attitudes and activities we’re okay with regarding viruses, we may be better off.
“This pandemic created a language for people to express how different their comforts could be from that of their friends, and I think that’s a great start,” says Brown. “When the context is different and the virus is less of a reason not to be socially involved, people still have to set these limits of themselves … Not that they should say no to everything, but that you should say no to things You say yes, which could please you. “
In a perfect world, I would get Marie Kondo the hell out of my post-vaccination social life – doing the things that make me happy and saying no to the things that don’t. I would burst the pandemic bubble without losing my pandemic perspective. Of course it’s never that easy. I am still the same person. Expectations will inevitably creep in. Occasionally I’ll do things I don’t want or I’ll look around and wonder if my choices are the right ones. But hopefully I’ll be a little kinder to myself on the way.