I’ve loved studying and posting on this sub for a lot of months now, and I really feel like I’ve observed a disconcerting pattern, currently. Over time, increasingly of the posts appear to have A- a common consensus on each put up, with any dissenters massively downvoted and B- a shift in the direction of judgments that appear (to me at the very least) to be out of step with how individuals in the actual world decide conditions.
Provided that, I feel it’s essential to do not forget that though the sub is just not supposed to be for validation posts or to be an echo chamber or to present recommendation on how individuals ought to behave in particular situations- in follow, loads of occasions it’s.
So simply as a reminder- offline, individuals in your actual life will assume you’re an asshole in case you take the final cookie when you recognize the kid behind you needs it.
They’ll assume you’re an asshole in case you don’t arise for an aged individual on a bus. They’ll assume you’re an asshole in case you don’t exit for drinks together with your co-workers every so often. They’ll assume you’re an asshole in case you don’t attempt to be concerned in your youngster’s life, irrespective of how a lot help you pay. They’ll assume you’re an asshole in case you can’t assist out your brother with babysitting every so often, even in case you’re childfree. They’ll assume you’re an asshole in case you put on nothing however underwear in your personal dwelling when your roommate has visitors over. They’ll assume you’re an asshole in case you can’t detour for 10 minutes a day to carpool with a co-worker for per week whereas his automotive is within the store.
The web has its personal values, and that’s wonderful. However in the actual world, individuals who can’t simply go alongside to get alongside more often than not? Individuals who don’t need to mildly inconvenience themselves to assist out the individuals round them? Individuals who don’t appear to place any inventory into the concept of collectivism? The individuals round them are going to think about them to be assholes.
So yeah. I really like this sub, I really like studying the tales and I discover it very fascinating to listen to individuals’s opinions. However I personally assume that most likely greater than 50% of the time, the individuals I do know in actual life would disagree with the sub’s judgement of who’s the asshole in a given scenario. I don’t know if the disparity is simply due to reddit’s demographics, or as a result of individuals with alternate views see the writing on the board and don’t need to get down voted to oblivion.
So even in case you get 4000 replies on reddit saying that you just’re completely in the fitting, if everybody in your actual life thinks you’re an asshole, properly… there’s most likely a purpose for that. And possibly that is simply me, however I actually want we may have extra dialogue about if somebody is being an asshole in the event that they’re being thoughtless or egocentric, even when they don’t technically “owe” anybody something.
Or possibly you imagine that individuals offline are fallacious, and we must always proceed to advertise the individualistic worth system seen on reddit each on and offline. That is a dialogue price having too.
Edit: Thanks guys, that is very fascinating dialogue up to now. And lol do not simply downvote the individuals who disagree with me/you, interact them with out being combative.